1. Validate feelings.
Recognize the hardships the person is going through, make them feel understood, make them feel like someone finally gets their situation.
Reminding them how strong they have been at times might not work because they might feel like you want them to go on suffering because they are strong.
2. Follow up.
Maybe you have seen someone you know who is depressed be given help. That is not the time to just relax and walk away. A friend is still needed to give encouragement to take that next step in the healing process. Don’t let yourself think you’ve done enough.
3. Just be together.
You don’t need to always say something to someone who is in a state of depression. Sometimes making a point to just be in the same room silently with them can be as good or better than giving advice. A hug or a soft touch can often communicate a feeling of being cared for that words cannot describe
Call them or text them to remind them that they are not alone. Make them feel better about themselves
4. Be encouraging without expectations
An encouraging quote or caring note, an invitation to do something together, or a word of love or appreciation can go a long way when a person is depressed. The person may not have the energy or ability always to respond back to you, but be encouraged….. your encouragement has meaning.
Do not try to fix their situation, listen to the person…make them know that someone can listen to them.
5. Offer to go the extra mile.
Are you willing to do the big things that need to be done in times of crisis for your friend or loved one? Will you go the extra mile? It may be inconvenient and take away from other things, but it may even save a life. They will always know it kept them safe at those dark times.